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Internet dating veterans love online dating for a number of reasons not the least of which is the sheer number of singles on dating sites. That first face to face though can be a bit nerve wracking. But being the experienced dater that you are, you know how to put a brave face on. So what do you do if your date is not quite so savvy?

This is always so endearing but frustrating. You can tell that your internet date is really happy to being getting some face time with you but clearly your overwhelming, unbridled awesomeness is just a tad intimidating. I mean, can you blame him? Certainly not. But still, you want your date to relax, both for the sake of having fun and because there’s no way for you two to really get to know each other if you’re not at ease enough to communicate.

The best way to approach this is in a caring and sympathetic manner. Try acknowledging that you sense they’re nervousness and admit that you feel the same. Even if you don’t, this little white lie can work wonders in putting your date at ease. Follow this up with the suggestion that you put these nervous feelings aside and concentrate on having fun. Suggest that you both lighten up a bit, and then change the conversation to something lighthearted.

With any luck your date will follow your lead and you can get down to the business of dating. But what if your date doesn’t follow suit? Well, you can only do so much. You’re here to have fun not a therapy session. If your date remains cool, don’t be rude about it, but do plan on making it an early night. There’s one of two things happening here; he or she is always cool and reserved, or they just need more time to warm up.

Great, you both have your nerves under control and you’re actually talking like normal people. Unfortunately an hour into your date you’ve come to the conclusion that this guy or gal is not just a bit of a jerk, oh no, he or she is a TOTAL jerk. What do you do now?

You don’t get it: he’s such a good on paper guy, what with his job working with animals and his stories about his nieces and nephews who love him so much but then you meet in real life and wow, he’s kind of a jerk. Not necessarily to you or to his best friend or his mother or anything, but to random people, like waiters and valets. Suddenly the man who was so sweet and charming in his emails to you is snapping at a stranger for bumping into him in line.

Yeah, you really can’t predict these kinds of things. Unfortunately, even if the anger isn’t directed at you, you probably want to cut and run from this one. For starters, there’s the possibility that at some point, it could be you he’s mad at and that’s just too risky. At the least, he’s definitely got some deeper issues that you don’t want to take on in the beginning.

This might sound a little harsh but dating a man like that is like buying a puppy when you already know it’s sick. True, they might all have problems at some point but that shouldn’t stop you from shopping around until you find the one who seems healthiest.

This post was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can find thousands of helpful dating posts.